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Inlaws
Apr 10, 2007 10:41:17 GMT -5
Post by Admin on Apr 10, 2007 10:41:17 GMT -5
I wish there was something I could say or do to make it better for you but the only ones who can do that is you and jay.
It certainly wont take the hurt away but just accepting who and what they are and the role THEY CHOSE in your lives will allow u to move on and make choices best for you guys.
Your lucky you have some great friends who are there for you and the kids.You just need to realize friends are better than family cause YOU chose them and THEY chose YOU
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Inlaws
Apr 12, 2007 21:51:14 GMT -5
Post by jazz on Apr 12, 2007 21:51:14 GMT -5
I always send food with my kids on the odd occasion that they visit the inlaws without us. I figure it would not be right of us to assume they feed our kids but they never feed them the food usually unless we insist but I always like to give it just to show we dont expect a freebie. I would be blown away insulted if they actually expected us to send food though. My sister is like that and it drives me crazy. If we are visiting her and my son asks her for a drink she actually tells him he is getting water because the juice is for her own kids!!! can you believe it? Meanwhile I take her kids for a weekend and actually do a special shop to buy what I know they like! As if a glass of juice or a bowl of KD is gonna break the bank...that is the ultimate insult....
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Inlaws
Apr 13, 2007 20:19:16 GMT -5
Post by luvmykid on Apr 13, 2007 20:19:16 GMT -5
Holy Crap Jazz! I am soooo lucky, my SIL and I take eachothers kids whenever we ask eachother to. I couldn't even imagine doing that to my family.
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Inlaws
Apr 13, 2007 20:53:39 GMT -5
Post by aidensmom on Apr 13, 2007 20:53:39 GMT -5
Yeah that is crazy Jazz! I mean my sister can be like that, with me maybe, not over a drink though, but if I needed to feed Aiden there and didn't bring anything with me she wouldn't hesitate to feed him!
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Inlaws
Apr 14, 2007 10:45:51 GMT -5
Post by andrea on Apr 14, 2007 10:45:51 GMT -5
That is awful Jazz, I could not see myself visiting my sister if she were like that. My sister would give my son her last piece of bread or the last drop of milk or juice, if he wanted it! And for you sister to actually say that the juice is for her kids is just not right. You should have a really good talk with her.
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Inlaws
Apr 14, 2007 11:39:37 GMT -5
Post by jazz on Apr 14, 2007 11:39:37 GMT -5
You know, that is just my sister and I have come to learn to live with it. She asked my other sister to babysit one time and told her to bring her own food for lunch because she cant afford to feed her...lol..meanwhile its not like my sister asked her for money to babysit or anything.....also my sister is loaded with cash..between her and her hubby they make over 150k a year and their house is paid off and they are both under 40...She is so cheap and miserable most of the time. It is sad really. I used to really let it bother me and I have tried to say stuff to her about it in the past but she just doesnt get it. Oh well, I guess that is why this topic of the inlaws being like that just gets under my skin. One time I took my sister's son for a whole month of the summer and took him everywhere (she never even sent him with any spending money or anything)and bought him clothes, toys, treats, as well as feed him etc...and when I drove him 3hrs home (they live pretty far) it was close to lunch time, she actually sat down with the family and ate lunch and asked us to wait in the rec room while they ate lunch....she didnt even offer us a glass of water after the long drive...lol....we just left....unbelieveable
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Inlaws
Apr 14, 2007 19:34:31 GMT -5
Post by aidensmom on Apr 14, 2007 19:34:31 GMT -5
wow that is crazy. But you are right Jazz, sometimes you just learn to accept them and know that you can't change them no matter what. Maybe you should try that with her sometime when she comes to your house and see how she likes it! It may make her realize what she is doing.
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Inlaws
Jul 13, 2007 6:37:09 GMT -5
Post by joeboxer on Jul 13, 2007 6:37:09 GMT -5
tit-for-tat Look who's complaining. If you don't want to do it, don't do it. Next time, ask them to pay, and jokingly mention you picked up tab last time.
All is fair, and you're getting pushed around because you don't push back.
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Inlaws
Jul 13, 2007 8:39:41 GMT -5
Post by kellylynn on Jul 13, 2007 8:39:41 GMT -5
i hate the favoritism some grandparents openly display for certain grandchildren! sometimes its better if the inlaws are not involved in the childs life... its healthier for everyone
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Inlaws
Jul 13, 2007 9:31:28 GMT -5
Post by carcait on Jul 13, 2007 9:31:28 GMT -5
My mother in law and sister in law have not seen, or even spoken to the kids in over 2 years! I have given up even trying to understand them. I think the kids are just better off not knowing these people at all, than having them walk in and out of their lives at random, whenever the mood strikes.
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Inlaws
Jul 14, 2007 17:19:33 GMT -5
Post by aishasmom06 on Jul 14, 2007 17:19:33 GMT -5
sorry to hear...my mother in law is awesome, we get along great couldnt ask for a better one, she would never dream of asking for money to watch my daughter nor would my own mother thats insane...never ever heard of that before.
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Inlaws
Jul 17, 2007 13:38:01 GMT -5
Post by manana on Jul 17, 2007 13:38:01 GMT -5
My inlaws are simply amazing....they will take our kids without us asking, take us out for dinner almost weekly, heck, I am going to the bar tonight with my FIL just for fun!!!
I guess I got lucky!!
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Inlaws
Jul 27, 2007 7:38:11 GMT -5
Post by kellylynn on Jul 27, 2007 7:38:11 GMT -5
my mother in law just got married on monday. #2 for her #3 for her man. i don't see why they had to get married .
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Inlaws
Jul 29, 2007 20:40:35 GMT -5
Post by Admin on Jul 29, 2007 20:40:35 GMT -5
Just got back from visiting the Inlaws and what a trip.. we had a family BBQ with wayyyyyy too much food but hey atleast it was fun..
The only thing that pisses me off is Kevins Brother did not even have the decency to show up let alone call him while we were there. But it does not surprise me since this is the same brother that backed out of being the Best man a month or so before the wedding..
And the same brother whose kids cant even call to say thank you for gifts we have sent.. so we are now no longer sending anything
Wonder if he would even notice..
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